Building Confidence – When many of my clients arrive for their first consult with me, their biggest self-confessed problem is a lack of confidence. Everyone is so focused on their own faults that they forget to see their beauty. Society is constantly telling us what we should look like and what we should wear. What society doesn’t tell us is how we should feel, where we can find happiness and how we can build up our confidence.
A lack of confidence will really hinder your self-love journey. During my first consultation with a client, I like to learn more about who they are, where they are in their lives and where they want to be. Knowing these things help me to craft the best-suited wardrobe for my client. But the clothes we wear don’t make us. I try to help my client as best as possible to discover who they are. We can then build on a foundation of self-love and acceptance.
Here are a few ways my clients have found acceptance and self-love and how they go about building confidence:
Know how to have fun on your own
When everyone is unavailable you must be able to have fun with yourself. One of the most important things anyone can learn is to enjoy their own company. Go see a movie on your own. Relax with a cup of tea. Listen to music and take a long bath. Take a step back from social media and appreciate who you are.
Learn to Forgive Yourself
Many times we are just too hard on ourselves. We have hang-ups for mistakes we’ve made in the past. We can’t move beyond the poor choices we made and each time we think about these we dent out confidence a little more. Accepting and forgiving yourself for mistakes and poor choices is the first step to finding love for you.
Learn to say no
As easy as this may sound, I can assure you that it is anything but. Everyday people will require some of your time and some of your energy. You are hurting yourself when you say yes to do something that you don’t want to do. You need to know that it is alright to say no. By going through with plans you don’t want to you are causing unnecessary strain on your life. Now, I’m not saying you should suddenly cancel the plans you made three months ago. But, going forward to be more selective of the time and energy you give to others.
Setting a challenge for yourself will give you a good indication of what you can realistically do. Challenging what you think you can do will also show you what you are capable of doing. When you succeed in what you set out to do, you’ll increase your confidence levels.
Building Confidence – Self-love and self-care
Taking care of you is a great way to show yourself some love. While it does seem pretty obvious, many of my clients have forgotten how to take care of themselves. They have put the needs and wants of others ahead of themselves for so long that when they think of looking after themselves they feel guilty. But, in reality, you need to look after yourself to be the best version of yourself.
Building confidence is vital on your road to success. Book a personalised one-on-one consult with me today.